Did you visit GCC this weekend or watch the service online? If so, you heard Mark talk about the distance between where we are and where we want to be. If we’re single, I assume we could be aiming for one of two destinations (or both): a way of living single that’s true to who we are and a marriage in the future that’s secure, satisfying, and fruitful.
But the key to Mark’s diagram (of where we are and where we want to be) is knowing where we are in the first place. Let’s be honest with ourselves today. We’ve all messed up.
Have you had sex outside of marriage? Have you looked at someone and had a sexual thought about him or her? Either way, we’re all in the same boat. Consider Jesus’ words:
“You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
Reality sets in. And just in case we’re tempted to look the other way instead being honest about where we are, consider what 1 John has to say:
“If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us.”
1 John 1:8
I’ll admit this sounds kind of fundamentalist and browbeating. But I have to tell you it’s true. I’m in the same boat as you. We all need to be honest about our sin before we can get anywhere. This is how growth always begins.
Our sin is bigger than a rule infraction, although it does go against God’s Word. Our sin is every way in which we’ve forsaken the dream God had for you and me. I just talked about it on this blog recently; our sin means we’ve missed the mark on being fully human.
Rob Bell writes about a friend of his who knew how to get what he wanted from a girl. His friend discovered that:
“…exploiting women for sex didn’t just rob them of their humanity, it robbed him as well.”
From Sex God
And that’s where we start. However it is that we fall short, we need to admit that we’ve settled for something less than what we could be. You have, and I have, too.
Do you need to name it today? Do you need to talk to a trusted friend? Do you need to spend a few minutes in prayer, to just come clean with God? (He already knows, but until you shoot straight with Him, it’s always hanging in the air, like an elephant in the prayer closet.)
God, give us courage to be honest. We’ve messed up. And the more we run away from admitting our mistakes, the more distant we are from the grace you offer. Push back the fear that keeps us from being authentic. Give us strength to come clean today.
In Jesus’ name,